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This year Reddit had its twists and turns, as thousands of people turned to the internet for advice. With r/AmItheA**hole acting as a “catharsis for the frustrated moral philosopher in all of us,” the stories submitted to this subreddit can bring forth angry mobs from all corners of the internet to place judgment. Here are the best ones from this year. Do these stories make you as mad as some of the internet’s biggest any mobs?
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When Her Husband Didn’t Save Her A Seat She Got A Whole Other Table
From Redditor u/Throwawaydinner344:
I’ll start this off by saying that I (F32) have been with my husband… (M39) for three years, married for one. His mom has a habit of keeping me out of most of their functions with the excuse of “you work too much”. Not true, because sometimes I do make myself available… yet find myself excluded.
Last week [h]is mom invited us for a celebratory dinner at the restaurant after she completed her recovery… I let her and everyone know that I’d be there at 8 pm. [My husband] obviously knew I was coming.
Thing is, when I arrived to the restaurant I saw that the table was full. All chairs had been taken and I just stood there with complete puzzlement while [my husband] and his mom just stared at me. His mom then told me there was no place left for me and that I could either have [my husband] get up and take his seat or… go home.
I was so upset, but instead of going home I just went and took an entire table for me. [My husband] and his mom watched with their eyes popping out of their heads like they saw something so shocking… NGL I did get weird looks from the guests, but so did [my husband] and his mom. It was awkward in all honesty.
I had my dinner, dessert, then went home. I saw [my husband] and his mom staring grudgingly while I was making my way out. He got home an hour later and yelled, saying I embarrassed his mom in front of her guests. I yelled, asking WTF was I supposed to do after I got denied a seat, and he told me that it wasn’t his nor his mom’s fault guests arrived “before” me and took all the available chairs. I told him he could’ve saved me a chair!!!!!. He said that I could’ve just left instead, and reminded me that I was a “guest” and that I shouldn’t expect this level of entitlement to be “accepted.” He then went on about how I ruined the entire dinner for him and his mom with what I did and has been pouting about it for days now.
I don’t get it, I really don’t. Was my expectation really that entitled? I mean, as his wife he should’ve saved me a seat. But clearly I’m missing something here.
2They Gave Their Mother-In-Law A Fake House Key And Exposed Her
From Redditor u/Checkinout2022:
I wanna preface this by saying that I (F34) married my husband (M37) a year ago. His mom is snoopy and annoying af. She can’t help it, that is just how she is, as my dear in-laws say.
My husband and I purchased a new house recently. My MIL kept pushing to get an emergency key. She promised that she [would] only use it in an emergency, but giving the fact that she had an emergency key to our old apartment and walked in on us being intimate twice (but my husband didn’t think it was big deal), I just couldn’t trust her, so I just sent her a fake key (after she kept pushing) and she had a smug [look] on her face after I hand-delivered it to her.
Days [went] by, and [at] Christmas dinner MIL angrily “called me out” on the fact I gave her a fake copy of the house key. She shamed me for doing this in front of everyone, but in my [defense] I asked her how she found out, and she said days ago when she came over at 4 while my husband and were out. I reminded her, “Didn’t you promise you wouldn’t use it unless there’s an emergency? So you tried to get in when there was no emergency and you broke the promise you made to us!” She looked red in the face, and the other family started staring and some even laughed at her for the face she made. She suddenly got up from her seat and rushed into the kitchen, where she had a huge meltdown so loud the next door neighbors must’ve heard – literally, I’ve never heard a 60+-year-old woman throw a tantrum like that.
Needless to say, dinner [was] awkward, and my husband and his sister were giving me looks. My husband went off on me in the car and said I lied and manipulated and humiliated and exposed his mom, and said he wouldn’t have let me get away with it had he known. We had an argument and he is demanding I apologize to his mom for my childish behavior and for ruining Christmas dinner for the whole family.
AITA?
ETA: So this went off unexpectedly and I thought I’d show my husband some pretty helpful comments I found here minutes ago, but he got mad at me when he saw it and said I was nuts to talk about his family online. He demanded my phone so he could delete it, but I refused and I went upstairs and into the bedroom. [I’ve] never seen him so agitated and I didn’t think he’d react like that, honestly. But thank you guys for your support. It really means so much. I’ll update if I can. Thanks again 🙂
3Girlfriend Refuses To Sell Her Horse
From Redditor u/nohorsethrow:
Me (24F) and my boyfriend (26) have been dating for around nine months.
I’ve been riding horses since around 4 years old when I started taking lessons. When I was 10 I started helping out this girl at the stable with her horse Lady. At 12… she had to sell due to time/interest and asked if me and my parents wanted to buy Lady. Luckily for me, my parents were able to buy her and she’s been mine ever since. She’s my bestest friend and I love her a lot.
When I started to date my bf I was very honest with the fact that my horse takes a lot of time, and he was fine with this. When single I could spend like three to four hours a day in the stable, but as we started dating I cut this down… [t]o about three hours every other day as this is roughly how long it takes for me to do all the cleaning/preparing food/riding. Also, most of my friends are at the stable, which obviously means this is also social for me. The other days I would not ride and try to spend less time talking, which would make it about an hour. After about six months he told me I spent too much time at the stable and I should prioritize my relationship more, and somehow his family got involved and [said[ it was strange to prioritize the way I did. I wasn’t comfortable with this, but I am a bit of a pushover, so I agreed.
At first this meant cutting down time at the stable, but it has evolved into cutting down riding days. Now I ride about two days a week and the rest I’m simply there to do the basics. All of this as quickly as I can because otherwise I know he’ll be annoyed and pissed off for days and give me the silent treatment. I know my horse isn’t really suffering from not being ridden as often as before, but I still feel very guilty that I’m always rushing around her.
Then last night he told me it was time to sell Lady. I laughed at him and asked if he was serious. He was. I told him no, and he said I needed to start prioritizing this relationship more, and I said I’ve done nothing but prioritize this relationship. We argued about it, and he apparently thinks I can just put her down as she’s old anyways. I was furious at this and told him that was absolutely not happening and I would never sell her. He said that any reasonable person would sell or put down their horse in favor of their boyfriend, and the only reason I wouldn’t is because I only hang out with other insane horse people.
4Their Husband Wants Them To Sign Something Blindfolded
From Redditor u/ThrowRAissuesRA:
Ever since I got out of the hospital for chronic problems, my husband has been introducing me to some games every evening. One game used to be about doing things while my eyes are blindfolded – involving puzzles, ruby’s cube, shaped objects… We’d take turns to do it just for entertainment.
Just a couple of days ago, he’s been trying to get me to sign papers while wearing a blindfold. I refused to do it because he never lets me take a look at what I’m signing, neither before or after. He says that he was just trying to see if I could leave the same signature every time I sign, but I couldn’t help feel uncomfortable. I told him I don’t want to play this game unless and until he shows me the papers first; he said “never mind then” and stopped bringing it up.
Last night, he tried to convince me to give it a try and even volunteered to go first, I asked if he was going to show me what I was going to sign… [H]e made a face and said no, it’s the rules and I should respect them. I refused and he kept on about how I keep acting worried and suspicious for no reason. He said I clearly don’t trust him and he was hurt by finding that out now after everything we been through. We had an argument and I told him to drop it and not bring it up again, period. He was mad despite saying it was no big deal; he was obviously upset with me and kept talking about how I don’t trust him and that I was out of line to assume or suspect anything from him like this. I might be paranoid, but I couldn’t help it. I do think I was ta to him after he stood by my side when my own family didn’t even visit.
5They Searched Their Husband’s Pants Without Asking First
From Redditor u/Leigh20220:
Context: my husband (33) used to be unemployed for a year; he recently started a job at a warehouse.
Yesterday, and while I was about to do the laundry, I grabbed his work pants and [dug] my hand in its pockets to empty them before putting it in the washing machine like I always do.
My husband just happened to walk by… when he saw me searching his pants pockets. He rushed in, yelling at me to put his pants down. I already had a folded piece of paper out, but he snatched it, then started screaming at me about how I have no respect for his privacy and that I shouldn’t be getting my hands on his things. I was genuinely dumbfounded. I told him to take it easy – I always do this before laundry. He lashed out, saying I had no right, and should’ve come to him and asked him first because he was worried about important documents getting lost like the one I pulled out. I said important documents shouldn’t be inside his pockets and asked to see the paper, but he said he won’t show me. I asked why, and he said I don’t get to ask him jack s*** after I disrespected his privacy. I almost laughed because what privacy does he have in pockets? It wasn’t like a stranger was digging into them.
He refused to speak to me and later brought a new closet with A LOCK and moved his clothes inside of it. I asked if he was serious and he said this will teach me to respect his privacy and deter my snooping. Then went back to not speaking to me.
6Their Mom’s Friend Told Them To Go To Their Room
From Redditor u/throwaway372828282:
I (25F) don’t speak to my mother, like at all. I had to go to my mother’s house today to pick up an important document that I left behind when I moved out seven years ago.
As soon as I got to the house, my mother suddenly had a massive “emergency” and realised that it was apparently her friend’s funeral today and she completely forgot about it. I couldn’t help but internally roll my eyes, as there is always some drama; hence why I have gone no/very low contact.
She asked me if I would watch my two younger brothers (7 and 11) whilst she went to the funeral, and I said absolutely not, as it’s my only day off, I have plans, and I have no relationship with them due to my mother stopping them from seeing me for years. I just wanted to get my birth certificate and leave.
My mother asked her friend if she would babysit and asked me to stay for 10 minutes until her friend came. I didn’t even get the opportunity to say no before my mother left the house. I was seething but resolved to wait 10 minutes. My mother’s friend turned up and started berating me for not agreeing to look after my brothers whilst my mother went to the funeral.
I said, “I don’t have anything to do with my mother, it’s my day off work, and I’m under no obligation to look after anyone else’s children.” My mother’s friend then told me to “go to my room.” I laughed in her face and started to leave the house, and she asked me where I was going. And I told her, “My room, at my apartment, that I pay for with my big-girl job. Because I’m an adult, not a child. And don’t ever speak down to me like that again.” And I left.
My mother has left me loads of messages and missed calls saying I’m an AH for the way I spoke to her friend. I do admit I look kinda young but I still am not happy with the way my mother’s friend spoke to me.
7They Didn’t Take Down The Video Gift From The Best Man
From Redditor u/Savings-Pattern3614:
I have a sister that’s six years older than me.
My parents for years cancel on me last-[minute] because of my sister. I have a basketball game. [Oops], sorry, sister doesn’t feel like going out. I am graduating – [oops], sorry, sister had a bad day at work. They have missed both major and smaller events in my life because of her meltdowns.
I met the love of my life. We decided to tie the knot. From the beginning I told my parents how I am worried my sister will ruin another special moment in my life. My mom told me over and over again it would not happen.
The day of my wedding, I received a voicemail from my mom saying they couldn’t come because my sister’s dog was sick and she was upset.
I was hurt. My best man, however, is a jokester. He took my phone, then went to my fiance and asked if he could post a video of our wedding as a gift? On social media. She loved his idea.
I had no idea about it until I came home. Our honeymoon was at a lakeside cabin. No cell service.
The post caption was: “My best friend. He is an amazing person even if his parents NEVER showed up for him.” Video was still pictures of us next to her parents, me on the dance floor, cutting the cake. Where you would normally see both parents in wedding pictures. The sound behind the video was my mom’s voicemail explaining how they couldn’t come because my sister’s dog was sick.
I came home a week later to hundreds of messages. Family members from both sides insisting I take it down. I was told my sister hasn’t stopped crying. My mom is refusing to leave the house.
[I’m] maybe the A here. I didn’t take it down when I got my messages. I didn’t call my family back right away. I waited until my vacation time was over at work and enjoyed my time with my wife. In our new home. Before I contacted anyone.
My dad told me to take down the video. It was “just a bad night for them.” That they will make it up to me and my wife for not coming. My reply was exactly how do you plan to “make up” my wedding? It’s a once-in-a-lifetime thing. You choose to ignore my feeling on the whole matter.
Then he just repeated he will make it up to me. I told him I would take down the video only when he made up missing my wedding. Flustered, we both hung up the phone before we both said things we shouldn’t have.
Am I the A here. I could have just taken down the video.
8They Spoke Italian To Their Girlfriend’s Family And Embarrassed Them
From Redditor u/aitaITAM1990:
ETA: There may have been some confusion as to my gf’s reaction, she was ashamed her family dug so deep into me, not about my response. After wanting to die for the next 48 hours she agreed I did the right thing and that it was funny
Backstory: Due to my dad’s job we lived in Italy for three years when I was younger, so I speak Italian almost fluently (it’s been a while, so I’ve lost some of it).
Recently I started dating a girl. She’s great and I love her so much. I met her family a few nights ago for dinner. She warned me that the male side of her family is very big into being macho, into “testing” the boys the women date, and are VERY big on taking pride in their Italian ancestry. I think besides the grandfather, however, they were almost all born in Bergen County, NJ, but whatever – it’s nice to take pride in one’s heritage.
Long story short, at dinner they kept making jokes at my expense (I honestly would not call it bullying, just things about my height, beard, shaved head). They tried making fun of my IT job too but stopped once I told them my income. It was overall not a bad experience, but a not-so-pleasant one… [H]er older brother kept pushing things, giving me exceptional amounts of s*** for playing lacrosse in [high school] (apparently its a sport for prissy rich kids and not manly like football or baseball). He ended his rant by saying, “Hey, we’re just a big Italian family, we’re loud and tell it how we see it! Hahaha!” and all the family except my girlfriend laughed.
So I, for the next minute, responded to everything they said in Italian. My girlfriend buried her head in shame, the grandfather laughed, and everyone else kept looking at each other confused before telling me they didn’t speak Italian. I replied, “Then don’t use your Italian heritage as an excuse to behave poorly when you can’t even speak the language.” They got mad, but the grandfather told them all I was right and to be quiet.
My girlfriend isn’t mad, just ashamed. I think the grandfather likes me, but word from my gf’s sister is that all the men are furious, think I’m a smarta** and that I disrespected them and their masculinity in an unforgivable way. So AITA?
9They Walked Out Of The Airport When They Saw Their Husband’s Mom There
From Redditor u/RoadIsland123:
I (F30) don’t have the best relationship with my husband’s mom. Since day one she tried to make remarks and compare me to her… She then tried to get on my good side and started overly praising everything I do and sometimes even copying me, like that one time when she LITERALLY [dyed] her hair purple just like mine, and when everyone pointed out how ridiculous she looked, she actually blamed me and accused me of trying to make a joke out of her.
…My husband and I took two weeks off work to go visit some places out of the country – tourism in other words… I was the one who saved up for and arranged for the trip (my husband was responsible for booking the tickets). My husband’s mom wanted to come along and threw temper tantrums when I said no. She called, texted, sent people to talk to me into letting her come, even threatened to call the police and make some complaint up to get us to stay if she can’t come. My husband said we should just take her, but I told him he was wrong to tell her about the trip in the first place. He gave me an ultimat[u]m – said he wouldn’t go if she can’t come, and I told him I’d gladly call his bluff, which made him take his words back and say, “FINE! I will tell her to stop it because we won’t take her.”
Things got quieter, susp[i]ciously quieter. The day of the trip came and we got to the airport at 2 pm. My husband was walking ahead of me and was looking left and right like he was looking for someone. I asked him, but he didn’t respond. He [led] me to the waiting area and first thing I saw was his mom standing there with her luggage. I froze in my spot. I felt a cold wave washing over me and I was fuming inside. She and my husband were hugging; that’s when I quietly turned around and started walking towards the exit. My husband followed me while shouting at me to stop. He tried to stop me but I told him off the harshest way possible. He tried to say I was overreacting and that his mom was there “anyway” and I should let it go and not mess the trip up for us. I told him he and his mom could still go and that I was going home.
I went home and sobbed into my dog’s fur for several minutes. Turned out he booked her a ticket without me knowing. An hour later he came home yelling and raging about how pathetic and spiteful I was to walk out and go home and ruin the trip last-minute. I told him he caused this to happen. He said that I was being so hard on his mom it’s ridiculous. I refused to fight any more, but he kept on berating me, then called my family to tell them that the trip was canceled and that it was because of me. My family said that I shouldn’t have ruined it for myself and should’ve sucked it up and done my best to enjoy.
10Her Fiance Canceled The Vegan Options For Their Wedding
From Redditor u/SarahJake2022:
My fiance (31 male) and I (25 female) are getting married soon. There wasn’t much [we] disagreed on during the wedding planning except for food. Me and my family are vegans, and there so many reasons why we chose this lifestyle… one of them being that we have a history of health issues. My fiance and his family are the complete opposite. They’re hardcore meat eaters, which is fine by me, obviously.
However, when deciding on the wedding food menu, I wanted to add 4-5 vegan options. My fiance and his mom objected, saying it was a waste of money over food that “isn’t real food.” They also argued that this would be offensive for “their” guests and suggested my vegan options just be “the good ol’ salads and appetizers” (his mom wanted cupcakes lol). I said no, because for one, it’s me and my family who’s paying. And two, I want to make my guests feel welcome and not be treated as second-class citizens by being served “salad.” My fiance made a face and said, “Isn’t that what vegans eat?” I refused to argue about it and said it was final.
The other day, I found out that he had canceled all the vegan options and took them off the menu completely and behind my back. I was seething. I called him at work but he kept hanging up on me. I went straight to his workplace and confronted him there and just flipped out on him. He was stunned to see me. He at first said it was his mom’s idea, then told me to go home because I was making a scene at the office. The fight continued at home and he defended himself by saying that I sort of made him resort to doing this after I kept brushing off his thoughs and input, and refusing to accommadate his family. But there were PLENTY of meat options; why why can’t I get 4-5 vegan options? When I’m paying for it? He yelled that it was his wedding too, not my family’s. My family said it was fine and they’ll figure it out and told me to let it go, but I refused.
AITA for putting my foot down on this?
UPDATE: So his mom messaged me earlier to try to get me to listen to what she had to say after I kept ignoring her phone calls. She spent long walls of text just to “address” what I did at her son’s workplace, calling it all kinds of stuff from immature to unhinged. She then went [on] to explain how she’s noticed that me and my family kept “acting dismissive” of her son’s input and [contributions] to the wedding. She said that she noticed my behavior towards him and her entire family and wanted to speak up earlier, but didn’t and tried to keep the peace. She then went on to address the food menu issue and denied her involvement in the cancellation of the vegan option, but that didn’t mean she doesn’t support her son’s decision. Moreover, she thought it was soooo responsible of him to make that move because of my continual refusal to see how this stuff is [a] waste of money.
She also pointed out how I kept saying “I paid for it” and said that technically this isn’t just my money, it’s mine and his because we’re getting married. She suggested I wisen up and get rid of “my money, I paid for it” mentality. She finally mentioned how “bad” this whole situation is making me look, and said that she and her son had already offered a number of compromises that I chose to brush off and decided to make it my “weird” hill to die on. She said that not only her son is upset but she and “the family” are as well after hearing about it and suggested I just agree on their compromise and be done with it.
This pissed me off beyond belief. I responded by letting her know that I’m still standing my ground on this even if I’ll have to call the whole wedding off because of it. Because honestly? This is just ridiculous, it is!!! My mom and dad… they don’t even know what to say anymore. Apparently, my fiance saw my response to her (he’s with her) and is now trying to call me, but right now I’m waiting on him to get home and see if he’s still insisting on the stance he took.
I’ll update if there’s anything worth adding after we talk.
11They Embarrassed A Lunch Thief At Work
From Redditor u/Steelsnapdragon:
…I don’t think I am the A but I’ve been getting some flack for it so I really want to clear this up.
So I started a new job recently. I work in small studio; there are several others in the building – think open-plan office with sections assigned to each studio. The person I had an altercation with doesn’t work for my studio just FYI.
I eat lunch at 1ish and most people eat at 12. I came down early to eat at 12. I made coffee and while at the counter noticed my [Tupperware] in the sink, empty.
Imagine my surprise when I turned around and saw a man I didn’t know sitting down at the table with my food on his plate. He had just stuck it in the microwave. Acting rashly since I was mad, I sat down next to him and said, “Hey that looks good, mind if I try it?” Then before waiting for an answer I yanked the plate away from him and snatched his fork out his hand. He just blinked in shock as did the other people there as I started eating.
He then, quite loudly, asked what I thought I was doing, and I replied, “Huh, you know this was actually much better when I first cooked it; it probably lost some flavor in the fridge.” He caught on quickly that it was it was my food and went a lil red. I then asked him where he got the gall to steal someone else’s lunch and then ask them what they were doing when they took it back.
He stuttered out some nonsense about not knowing it was mine, and I replied, “Well, you knew it wasn’t yours, right?” He just mumbled something like an apology, and I said that’s no problem – it was nice he’d warmed it up for me at least, in an admittedly b*tchy tone, and then he just got up and left and the people there just stared in silence. Two of the silent watchers, maybe his mates idk, told me that I was rude to him and that there had been nicer ways to go about it. I told them to think how they’d feel if someone ate their food before saying they should focus on their lunch and I’ll focus on mine.
Well, it’s been a little awkward at lunch since, and I have the impression a few people are talking s*** about me at work now. Maybe I could’ve been nicer, sure. I still don’t think I was wrong, but tell me Reddit, AITA.
TL;DR: Lunch thief tried to eat my food in front of me; I took it back and embarrassed him in front of his colleagues.
Edit: Okay, this blew up. Just wanted to drop an edit on here to say thank you so much for all the comments, support and awards. It’s great to know I wasn’t completely overreacting. Maybe I should chat [up] some people and see if the food thief has struck before; will update then if y’all are interested.
…I saw some comments saying I should go to HR, but my studio doesn’t have HR and the perp doesn’t work for the same place. We do have a de facto office manager, but I don’t want to take it any further since I’m still new here and on probation/think my reaction might have been enough.
Update: So not sure if anyone wanted an update, but I finally found out from a new friend at work that yes, the lunch thief has struck before! Apparently everyone wrote their names on their lunch to combat this, and the thief then targeted unmarked lunch or lunch items; guess no one told me…
People apparently [started] being petty and standoff-ish to the thief since and he blames me for that lol. Also, according to my new friend most were actually very pleased that the thief was finally identified/dealt with.
I was assured that besides the thief in question and his cronies, no one thought I was being a b*tch. However, not knowing much about me, [they] assumed I was a very serious or clique-y person from my reaction, which [is] fair – I dress very professionally when most of the office dresses quite casual, which probably added to that (think high heels, blouse and skirt vs. shorts, graphic tee and slops). I’ve started to come down to lunch earlier to chat to some people, and the office seems to be warming up to me.
So not a drama-filled update, but I’m very happy things turned out so well and my reputation with my colleagues is off to a good start. Thanks again for all of the comments and support…
12Their Artist Hid Their Initials In Their Tattoo
From Redditor u/TattoodNoobAITA:
This is a short one. Names changed for privacy.
I went to a tattoo shop in my area, with a photo of the tattoo I wanted. It was one my dad had gotten to honor my passed grandfather [whose] father also had it. But the point is – it was important to me that the tattoo looked EXACTLY as it did in the photo.
I get to the shop, I explain everything, I pay, get the tattoo, and we’re done, I think it looks awesome, everything is great! Until a few weeks later when I show my great-grandmother the tattoo. She’s static, grabs my arm to look at and compliment it, then asks, “Who’s AJ?”
I ask her what she means, and she points out on the tattoo where the initials A and J or maybe T were hidden into the tattoo. I’m instantly pissed, as my artist’s name is Alice Trever. She tries to assure me it’s no big deal if I hadn’t noticed it till now, but I still reached out to the artist sort of irritated. They told me the style of art I got is called traditional and it’s “pretty trad” for all artists who do that style to do it. I demanded a partial refund and they refused, so I complained to the owner, who made the artist give me a full refund.
Now the artist is running a full smear campaign, talking about moving shops, and all kinds of crap. My sister says I’m an a**hole for pushing the issue, but I feel like, at the end of the day, I told you exactly what I wanted and you didn’t do that. AITA?
13He Taught His Niece To Mess With Their Mom
From Redditor u/chupacabrathrowra:
…My sister has a habit of saying, “You know what really gets my goat.” She [probably] says it seven or eight times a day. So like that Tumblr post I taught my niece to say “el chupacabra” when her mom says it (it sounds more like “eh supacaba” though ‘cause shes 4, but it’s adorable). I told my niece it was a monster from Mexico that eats goats and she didnt seem scared or anything, [probably] ’cause the only monster she knows is Cookie Monster, but apparently now my niece walks around the house saying “el chupacabra!” all day, and now my sister and brother-in-law are mad at me for teaching her this, but imo it’s kind of adorable and also harmless?? But like she’s my sister’s kid so idk.
14Childless Couple Made A ‘Pregnancy Jar’
From Redditor u/thasyojar2013:
My husband and I have been married for six years. Still don’t have kids (we want them but [it’s] still not happening). Friends and family are causing us constant stress about having a baby soon, but it’s obviously something we can’t control. We only wished that they’d stop, but to no avail.
So what I did was come up with [an] idea (stupid, I know), and that is [to] have an empty jar and call it a “Pregnancy Jar.” I carry it with me in my bag whenever I’m with friends and family, and every time someone asks about when my husband and I are gonna have a baby, I pull my jar out and ask them to drop a dollar in there for asking. I’d get puzzled looks, but they reach out for their pockets/wallets/purses and pull out a dollar and [put] it inside the jar. It actually worked because most of them stopped asking after four months.
Last week we had dinner at my parents’ house. My brother came back from his business trip that lasted a month and while we were eating he asked when me and my husband were going to have a kid. My husband paused; I got up from the chair and made my way to where my brother was sitting with my jar in my hand and asked him to drop a dollar for the question he asked. [H]e stared at me, then laughed nervously, asking if I was being serious. Everyone was looking at us. He said no, he didn’t have to pay me, but I told him he didn’t have to ask either, so here we are! I could tell he felt embarrassed. He immediately reached out to his pocket, pulled out his wallet and put a dollar in my jar. I made my way back to my seat and sat down and resumed eating like nothing happened.
It got awkward afterward. Mom pulled me into the kitchen later to tell me that I embarrassed my brother in front of his wife and family and said I should quit acting childish by running around with a jar demanding others to put money in it. I told her they should quit asking then. She went on about how they’re just worried for us since we are in mid-30s and don’t have much time left if we want at least one healthy baby. I got upset and she started arguing. My husband and I left and we haven’t seen them in days, except I got a call from my sister basically siding with Mom and the others saying I’m being childish.
15They Told Their Mom They Hate Harry Potter And Want To Live Their Own Life
From Redditor u/LEAVEMEALOOOOOONE:
As my title suggests, my mom is a huge Harry Potter nut. She and my dad actually met in a harry potter “IRC” (like Disord but for old people) in the early ’00s, got married, had kids, and from day one decided to embarrass us for life by naming us after some Harry Potter and Star Wars characters.
It’s honestly been hell. I have a stupid name and since we were little my parents have forced stuff like Harry Potter, Star Wars, Marvel movies, etc., etc., down our throats. Everything is about dragons and magic and blah blah blah. I’m so sick of it. Every birthday every holiday everything is just organized around “fandom.”
So just like every Christmas the days leading up to Christmas we have to sit down every night and watch Harry Potter movies. It’s. So. BORING!!!! I can usually get away with knitting or drawing on my iPad during this, but this year my mom was like, “Let’s just have a technology- and distraction-free night every night.”
I arranged to go over to my friend Missy’s house instead for like two nights. Missy’s family is NORMAL and likes things a NORMAL amount. My mom got really mad and started talking about how it’s a family tradition and how I’m basically rejecting her and went on her whole thing about how “you wouldn’t exist if it wasn’t for Harry Potter.”
I finally had it and just yelled “NOBODY CARES THAT YOU WERE A BIG NAME IN THE HARRY POTTER FAN CLUB!!! I don’t like Harry Potter! I don’t like Star Wars! I HATE MARVEL MOVIES THEY’RE ALL SO BORING PLEASE JUST LET ME HAVE MY OWN INTERESTS!”
I couldn’t help it; I started crying because I was just so frustrated because everything always has to be about Harry Potter this, Star Wars that, and now that we’re all older they started doing Game of Thrones. EVERYTHING is centered around some kind of movie or TV show or book series.
Just once I want my family to band around something that DOESN’T have to do with media or these nerdy things. We live in Utah where we have like five national parks, and even though I ask every year for my birthday I’VE NEVER EVEN BEEN TO ARCHES!!!!
Well, my sister called me saying that Mom was angry and to just come home and to stop with the theatrics. I told her that I’m sick of having all this old “nerd” stuff crammed down my throat and just once I want to have a normal time watching normal Christmas movies and not having to pause for “lightsaber battles.”
AITA?!??!
HEY GUYS I know you think you’re “cool” and “in on the joke” wink wink when you DM me and ask me for my name, but I’m a teenage girl and that’s not really how it’s coming across. Please stop DMing me I don’t care.
**For those of you telling me in dms “IRC didn’t do fandom” it was part of a “livejournal” community. Someone in the community had a fan site they all liked. It had a chatroom. I’m sure there was other stuff too?
